A woman is worried her boyfriend is taking advantage of her financially.
She shared the dilemma on Reddit’s “Am I the A******? (AITA)” forum. Her live-in boyfriend recently moved his three daughters into their home. The issue is he expects her to foot the majority of any childcare-related expenses. When she asked him to contribute more, he blew up.
“I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years,” she explained. “He does not work. He is a disabled veteran and collects a pension. I make about $60,000 more per year than he does. He would give me a few hundred dollars here and there towards food/bills when I would ask and I paid my mortgage and the rest of the bills. He was paying about $1200/month in child support for his three girls who lived with their mom. I have two girls, who live with me 60% of the time.”
“About six months ago his girls’ mom decided she couldn’t take care of them any longer. She had ruined their family home. It was awful to discover, and at no point when the girls visited did they share this info with me. I don’t know HOW he didn’t know what was happening but he says he didn’t. The courts decided the girls needed to live with their father.”
But after the girls moved in with them, her boyfriend seemed to place the financial burden on her.
“For the last 6 months, I’ve continued to pay for everything and he’s given me $500/month towards their support,” she wrote. “Their mother has contributed nothing. I itemized my spending and determined that my costs have gone up about $1700/month since they came here, just regular bills. I showed this to my boyfriend and asked that he started paying me an amount closer to the cost of the spending, at least the $1200 he was paying in child support before they came here.”
“He became very angry, accusing me of being money hungry and insinuating he was taking advantage of me. I expressed that if he felt he could support four people for less than what I was asking him to contribute on his own, then he should do that. I feel like I am being taken advantage of, and what makes this feel worse is that I discovered my boyfriend’s ex-wife also was dating a younger person with a good job, and that guy is now suing her for taking advantage of him.”
Redditors thought the boyfriend was bad news.
“You’re being used,” someone said.
“You are being financially abused and you need to get your abuser out of your home,” another commented.
“Every dollar he mooches from you is a dollar that isn’t making your future and your children’s lives more secure,” a person wrote.
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