A father doesn’t understand why his wife is treating their daughter so strictly.
He took to Reddit’s “Am I the A******? (AITA)” forum for advice. He and his wife agreed on a collaborative parenting style when their kids were young. But now that their son and daughter are 16, his wife appears to be imposing undiscussed rules — and exclusively on their daughter.
“When my wife and I got married, we had long discussions about our morals, how we wanted to raise kids, etc.,” he said. “We always agreed we were going to practice authoritative parenting and treat our kids with respect and kindness. I’m extremely proud of the people our kids have grown to be.
“Last weekend, my daughter wanted to go to a party at a friend’s house. My wife and I said yes. When she got home, my wife took her phone from her and started going through her texts and photos to confirm she was actually at her friends. I was livid when I found out, as this seemed like a gross invasion of privacy to me. We talked about it, and she said it wasn’t a big deal but [that] she wouldn’t do it again.”
He thought the situation was over, but his wife continued to escalate things with their daughter.
“Then yesterday, my wife took my daughter’s laptop and threatened to take THE DOOR from her room if she found out she was talking to boys,” he said. “My daughter has never even been given a rule not to talk to boys, so this all seems insane to me. Last night, again, we discussed why she was doing this. She said she just wanted a bit more discipline in the house, as our kids are ‘too relaxed,’ but again [she] said she would drop it.
“Today, my wife asked me to help take my daughter’s door, and I pulled her into our room to have a private conversation, and things got heated. I told her I felt she was being extremely irrational and bullying our daughter and implementing insane standards they have never had to or should have to expect. How is our daughter being punished for a rule that never existed? I threatened to leave her and take the kids if she didn’t start reflecting on what she was doing and start respecting them as people again.”
Redditors sided with the father on this one.
“You’re right to stand up for your daughter. Your wife is being extremely controlling and invasive,” someone wrote.
“Keep doing good by defending your daughter and get to the bottom of this mess,” another said.
“Your wife is damaging her relationship with her daughter,” a person commented.
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